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Bondage Kink: The Psychology of Restraint and Why It Works | Second Banana

June 2, 2026

Bondage is the entry point for more people into kink than almost anything else — and the psychology behind why restraint is so compelling is more interesting than most accounts suggest.

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The Butt: An Appreciation, a Guide, and a Very Good Case for Reconsidering | Second Banana

April 30, 2026

The anus has more nerve endings than almost anywhere else on the body. This is not an accident. A genuinely useful, anatomy-first guide to anal pleasure — for all bodies, all genders, and the ADHD people who already know about all-day plug wear.

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Open Relationship vs Polyamory: What's Actually Different | Second Banana

April 16, 2026

Open relationships and polyamory both involve consensual non-monogamy — but they're built on meaningfully different assumptions. Here's how to tell them apart, and how to figure out which one actually fits you.

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Solo Polyamory: The Radical Act of Choosing Yourself First | Second Banana

April 7, 2026

Solo poly isn't loneliness or commitment-avoidance. It's a deliberate, considered way of building a rich erotic and relational life while remaining the primary author of your own story. Here's what it actually means — and why Second Banana was built for it.

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What Is Squirting, Really? The Science — And Why It's Fine | Second Banana

March 26, 2026

Is squirting pee? Mostly yes — and completely fine. Here's what the research actually says about squirting vs. female ejaculation, what urea actually means, and why the shame was never warranted.

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Fantasy-Specific Hookups: How Second Banana Changes the Game | Second Banana

March 24, 2026

Hookup culture is broken because nobody says what they actually want. Second Banana is built differently — here's how posting your specific fantasy instead of a vague profile changes everything about who you find and what you experience.

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Bondage Kink: The Psychology of Restraint and Why It Works | Second Banana

The Butt: An Appreciation, a Guide, and a Very Good Case for Reconsidering | Second Banana

Open Relationship vs Polyamory: What's Actually Different | Second Banana

Solo Polyamory: The Radical Act of Choosing Yourself First | Second Banana

What Is Squirting, Really? The Science — And Why It's Fine | Second Banana

Fantasy-Specific Hookups: How Second Banana Changes the Game | Second Banana

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